PolyOz

Article originally published The Australian November 20, 2010

Three is the new two as couples explore the boundaries of non-monogamy

Polyamory is more widespread than you'd expect and often it has nothing to do with cults or religion

THE Hill-Thompsons* are like any other young family expecting their first baby.

They're buying maternity clobber on eBay, weeping during ultrasounds and giggling when the malapropistic midwife leading their prenatal classes advises them to gouge their birth companions carefully.

There is, however, one thing about the Hill-Thompsons that makes them a little unusual: there are three of them.

Mari (a 33-year-old student doing her second degree), Sara (a 32-year-old uni lecturer) and David (a 35-year-old IT geek) have been a sexually monogamous, three-way unit for six years.

They are not religious, they're not cult members and they're not even that into group sex.

They just happened to all fall in love with each other at roughly the same time.

For the most part, the Brisbane trio have kept the details of their polyamorous private life to themselves. But they are slowly coming out of the closet now Mari is eight months up the duff. Sara is also hoping to conceive in the not-too-distant future.

Telling people about their super-sized relationship is complicated by a lack of unloaded language options. Threesome sounds too sexy and there is no triplicate version of the word couple.

"Usually we just tell people there are three of us," Mari says. "But polyfidelitous might be the best technical term."

Just to confuse everyone further...

A few people have been reporting issues with wiggio.com's (lack of) user-friendliness. At the meet up last week, the group decided that our primary website will again be www.meetup.com/Brisbane-polyamorists/

The reason we moved to wiggio.com was because the meetup.com group cost money each month to maintain the site. We decided at the gathering however that one of the members is happy to keep paying the monthly fee and those present at the actual meet up each month can contribute a gold coin donation to him towards running costs if they wish. The Meetup website is more user-friendly than Wiggio. I will still be maintaining the Wiggio group as a backup site until such time as it does not seem necessary, but it is one and the same group as the Brisbane Polyamorists Meetup group on meetup.com.

Fee free to join us over there.

Sorry for the confusion.

Hello, everyone

We are new to this site and would love to learn all we can about this lifestyle. If any lady or couple would like to chat, we'd be delighted if you would add us at your MSN... Our contact there and by email is This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

Thanks... kisses

Sandy and David, Brisbane