- 01 October 2010
- Published in International Poly News
- Percy Byshe Shelley
The road to Polyamory Utopia is long and twisting. There are many learning curves and it is dotted with potholes and littered with road kill. The rewards are great on arrival but there is a price to pay. You have to learn how to negotiate this road and unfortunately our parents, peers, teachers, and clerics have not been too helpful in guiding us along the way.
But we are learning Brad Blanton, the author of Radical Honesty, in a keynote address at a Loving More conference several years ago said, “You guys are the research and development arm of society”. And as researchers we will make mistakes .
But we also learn as we make mistakes. In observing the Poly community over the past 10 years it has become apparent to me that there are some basic principles, I call them Pillars, that everyone must understand and internalize to be able to successfully negotiate the road to Polyamory.
- 22 October 2009
- Published in Introduction
Polyamory has been defined as the philosophy and practice of loving more than one person at a time with honesty and integrity. The term Polyamory was coined in the late 80's by a pagan Priestess, Morning Glory Zell, and defines a range of different lifestyle alternatives. In most cases, but not all, this involves some sexual or at least intensely intimate sensual behavior. - reference:- ejhs.org Polyamorous people come from a wide variety of backgrounds. Some belong to an organised religion, and some don't. Some have children, and some don't. Some are currently looking for new relationships, and some aren't. We are of all ages, ethnicities, sexual orientations, occupations, and political persuasions.
- 23 May 2006
- Published in International Poly News
A new frankness about simultaneous relationships is sweeping the US, reports Paul Harris in New York - The Observer
Sometimes Nan Wises in-laws pop round on Sunday afternoons. They settle down with Nan, a psychotherapist, her husband John, a lawyer, and their two children to watch American football on TV.
So far, so all-American: a slice of suburban life on the outskirts of New York. But sometimes Johns long-term girlfriend drops by, as does Nans boyfriend. The Wises are not divorced. In fact, Nan says her marriage to John is as strong as ever. We are very normal, well-adjusted people, she said.
Well, sort of normal. Welcome to the world of the polyamorous, where the family is bigger than you might expect. Polyamorists do not limit themselves to one relationship but maintain numerous relationships, straight or gay. A key element is that they are all serious emotional commitments, not just casual sex.
And polyamorists are coming out of the closet across America. Several groups have sprung up. In New York, Polyamorous NYC holds monthly meetings, has an email list of about 800 and holds a Poly Pride day each year in Central Park. A documentary, Three of Hearts: A Postmodern Family, has opened at cinemas in the city, chronicling a 13-year relationship between three people living together in a relationship that produced two children.
