Glossary of terms used on this site
There are 52 entries in this glossary.| Term | Definition |
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| Pagan Polyamory |
Because Pagans and Wiccans are pretty liberal-minded when it comes to bedroom-related stuff, it's not uncommon to find people in the Pagan community who are part of a polyamorous relationship. Polyamory is not related to marriage at all, although it's not uncommon to find polyamorous people who have had a commitment ceremony with one or more of their partners. Polyamory means a group of three or more people who have loving and committed relationships with one another. Open communication between all parties prevents anyone from feeling unequal, and both male and female partners make sure that any boundaries are set ahead of time. |
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| Pilegesh |
Pilegesh (Hebrew: פילגש) is a Hebrew term for a concubine with similar social and legal standing to a recognized wife, often for the purpose of producing offspring. A pilegesh was recognized among the ancient Hebrews and enjoyed the same rights in the house as the legitimate wife. Since it was regarded as the highest blessing to have many children, while the greatest curse was childlessness, legitimate wives often gave their maids to their husbands to atone, at least in part, for their own barrenness, as in the cases of Sarah and Hagar, Leah and Zilpah, Rachel and Bilhah. The concubine commanded the same respect and inviolability as the wife, and it was regarded as the deepest dishonor for the man to whom she belonged if hands were laid upon her. According to the Babylonian Talmud (Sanh. 21a), the difference between a pilegesh and a full wife was that the latter received a ketubah and her marriage was preceded by a formal betrothal ("kiddushin"), which was not the case with the former. According to R. Judah, however, the concubine also received a ketubah, but without the aliment pertaining to it. Any offspring created as a result of a union between a pilegesh and a man were on equal legal footing with children of the man and his wife. |
| Poly |
Typically a short hand for polyamory. Sometimes used as a catchall to avoid any need to distinguish between varieties of Polyamory. |
| Polyamoric |
Of or characterized by polyamory. (1) A Polyamorous individual or household (2) A practitioner of polyamory. |
| Polyamorous |
The core concept of polyamory is being involved in or open to multiple loving relationships, in a context of honesty and negotiation. The word roots are poly = multiple, and amor = love (specifically the sexual / romantic kind of love). Not in the roots but very important is the commitment to honesty with all partners, and openly negotiated ground rules. |
| Polyamory |
The core concept of polyamory is being involved in or open to multiple loving relationships, in a context of honesty and negotiation. The word roots are poly = multiple, and amor = love (specifically the sexual / romantic kind of love). Not in the roots but very important is the commitment to honesty with all partners, and openly negotiated ground rules. |
| Polyandry |
Anthropological term, Polyandry refers to a woman marrying more than one husband. The easy way to quickly recall the correct spelling and pronunciation of this term, polyandry, is by realizing that the "andry" (of "-andry") comes from the root-word, "andros" (or, anthros), which is the same root-word for "ANTHROpology", meaning the "study of man". Also, for further ease of recall, this word, "polyandry" does NOT include the "g" in its spelling, as opposed to polygamy and polygyny, which, of couse, are spelled a "g". While polygamy does technically also include polyandry in its definition, it is not commonly used this way. When most people use the more neutral term, "polygamy", they are usually only meaning polygyny. For Christian Polygamy, the definition in the Bible for "adultery" (as per the original language in which the Scriptures were written) is that of "woman that breaketh wedlock". That automatically makes it impossible for polyandry to be anything but adultery as defined by the Bible. Since that means that the Bible defines polyandry as adultery, Christian Polygamists do not (and are not able to) view it any other way either. Conversely, people who advocate or accept polyamorywould have no concern with polyandry whatsoever, as their beliefs come from a completely different paradigm and set of presuppositions. The easy way to quickly recall the correct spelling and pronunciation of this term, polygyny, is by realizing that the "gyn" (of "-gyny") comes from the same root-word as found in the name of medical fields which specifically specialize in womens health, "GYNocology" and "ob/GYN" (obstetrics/GYNocology). When most people use the more neutral term, "polygamy", they are usually only meaning this term here, i.e., polygyny. |
| Polyfidelity |
A form of Polyamory involving a closed group marriage (or marriage-like relationship), in which all adult members are considered primary to each other. Coined in the late 70's by Kerista community, which also included the concept that all adults of compatible sexual orientations would be sexual with each other, an attribute sometime omitted by others identifying as Polyfidelious. |
| Polygyny |
Anthropological term, Polygyny refers to a man marrying more than one wife. The easy way to quickly recall the correct spelling and pronunciation of this term, polygyny, is by realizing that the "gyn" (of "-gyny") comes from the same root-word as found in the name of medical fields which specifically specialize in womens health, "GYNocology" and "ob/GYN" (obstetrics/GYNocology). When most people use the more neutral term, "polygamy", they are usually only meaning this term here, i.e., polygyny. |
| Polytrothism |
Polytrothism, a form of polyamory, is the practice of egalitarian multiple intimate partnering. The term originated in 1988 at the second PEPCON conference (the predecessor to the Loving More conferences) to differentiate this form of partnering from more common forms where one connection, often the sole legally recognized one, has a primary status relative to the others. Polytrothic relationships are characterized by equal participation by all partners in major life decisions such as those regarding livelihood, children and property. Other characteristics of this form of relating include openness, trust, an absence of jealousy, and steadfast affection among the partners. |
| Primary |
These terms are very widespread, very important, and yet also very controversial. Some people try to avoid them entirely, for philosophical reasons. Others use the terms, but not always in quite the same way. There are two major usages. In the more common, a "primary" relationship is marriage like; it typically involves living together, often involves sharing finances or child raising. Life decisions are often made jointly, eg: where to live; jobs or careers to take, build or depart; bearing or adopting children. (See also "Nesting" relationships). Any of these may or may not exist in a given relationship considered primary by those involved. A secondary relationship is one generally not involving these things. Typically it involves living separately, having separate finances, and acting more as a (perhaps very close) friend than as a full partner in major life decisions. In this usage, one could have zero, one, or multiple "primary" relationships, and zero or more secondary relationships. Some people have only secondary relationships by choice or circumstances; some have more than one primary. This usage is a description of the kind of interweaving of lives involved in a particular pairing. It does not necessarily reflect the relative depth of love or understanding. |

